IF YOU NEED HELP NOW...
If you are in danger, call 911 and get to a safe place, if possible.
We are here to support you; we respect your choices.
Trust your instincts. If you believe that you (and your children) are in danger, you probably are. Please call 911 if you are in immediate danger or need emergency assistance. Whether you are ready to leave your partner or not, please call our 24-hour hotline for support: 417-299-2494. We believe that you are the best judge of your safety and respect your choices. Our counselors can help you determine a plan to help keep you and your children safe whether you decide to leave or stay.
It is important to develop a support network as you plan for safety. Think about friends, extended family members, community groups and organizations or faith communities that might be able to support you (and your children). It can be hard to reach out for help, especially if your partner has isolated you; however, ending isolation can help increase your safety. Remember that it is not your fault, and you deserve better.
DEVELOP A SAFETY PLAN
- Talk to someone you trust and identify safe places you can go when in danger.
- Memorize emergency numbers, including hotlines.
- Use a code word with family, friends, neighbors and/or children to let them know when you need help and when to call 911.
- Be aware of exits and escape routes in and around your home.
- In an argument, stay away from areas such as the kitchen or bathroom where dangerous objects may be used as weapons.
- Have an emergency bag filled with a change of clothes, basic toiletries and copies of any relevant documents (driver’s license, check book, credit cards, etc.), and store it in a place that your partner cannot find it
- Know of places to go for a night, weekend or in case of an emergency
- Establish alternate routes to work, school etc.
- Get a cell phone
- Talk with your children about where they can go in an emergency.
- Get medical attention, take photographs of injuries and keep them in a safe place (for evidence).
If You Know Someone Who Is Being Abused
Remember that it is not easy to leave an abusive relationship. Barriers to leaving include economic dependence, fear, isolation, shame, peer and societal pressure, cultural and religious values, and lack of information and access to services.
If you know someone who is in an abusive relationship, listen to her/his story without interruption or judgment. Never tell her/him what to do; rather, offer options and let them know about resources. Identify her/his strengths and let her/him know that you are there to support them when needed. Help rebuild their self-esteem; tell them they a good person/parent, deserve to have their feelings respected and their rights acknowledged. Assure them you will keep their confidentiality and encourage them to call our hotline.
- You care about them
- It’s not their faultThey’re not alone
- There are services available to them
- You are concerned for their safety, and the safety of their children
- They and their children deserve a safe home and healthy relationships
- You are there for them
- Suggest calling the hotline for information
The Christian County Family Crisis Center’s shelter, Freedom’s Rest is a federally and state recognized not-for-profit corporation. It began in 1996 when a group of citizens, concerned about the growing epidemic of domestic violence, formed a task force to address the problem and provide services. In 2003, our Board of Directors accepted the donated use of a privately owned facility for a shelter. With the support of local churches, businesses, civic groups and individuals, the shelter was renovated and opened as Freedom’s Rest in 2004. We are the only shelter in Christian County, serving residents throughout southwest Missouri. We also cooperate with other shelters when the need arises to place victims out of their local area for their safety. Women and children fleeing from a dangerous situation, regardless of home domicile, are welcome at our shelter.
We are currently able to house 17 adults and their children in a temporary safe haven, while teaching them the skills needed to begin life anew.